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The Fathered Girls Foundation

⚠️ This assessment is specifically for Awareness Only

www.thefatheredgirls.org

The Father Wound
Assessment

A psychotherapeutic tool for daughters on the path to healing & wholeness

Our Vision

We envision a world where African girls and women, wounded emotionally by father uninvolvement are supported and empowered to heal, rediscover their true identity, uncover meaning in their journey, and nurture a healthy sense of self.

Our Mission

We inspire and empower young ladies and women emotionally wounded by father uninvolvement by providing the platforms, resources, and services they need to heal, rediscover their identity, uncover meaning in their journey and nurture a healthy sense of self.

Approximately 15–20 minutes  ·  Your responses are private and for your personal awareness

Father Wound Assessment Form

Answer openly and honestly — there are no right or wrong responses. This is your safe space.

Section 1 of 80% complete
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Personal Profile

Confidential — used only to personalise your results

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Self-Worth & Identity

How your relationship with your father has shaped how you see yourself

Rate each statement honestly  —  1 = Never true of me  ·  3 = Sometimes true  ·  5 = Always true of me

SW-1I struggle to believe I am truly lovable or worthy of love, just as I am — without having to earn it.
Never trueAlways true
SW-2I feel I must earn love, approval, or acceptance — it never feels freely given to me.
Never trueAlways true
SW-3I often feel that something is fundamentally wrong with me as a woman.
Never trueAlways true
SW-4I find it genuinely difficult to receive compliments, praise, or positive affirmation.
Never trueAlways true
SW-5My sense of identity feels vague, unstable, or entirely dependent on what others think of me.
Never trueAlways true
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Relationships & Attachment

Patterns in how you connect, trust, and relate to others

Rate each statement: 1 = Never true  ·  3 = Sometimes true  ·  5 = Always true

RA-1I am repeatedly drawn to emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or harmful partners.
Never trueAlways true
RA-2I carry a deep, often overwhelming fear of being abandoned or rejected by people I love.
Never trueAlways true
RA-3I find it very difficult to trust people — especially men or authority figures — even when they have not harmed me.
Never trueAlways true
RA-4I either cling desperately to people I love or push them away when they get too close — rarely finding a healthy middle ground.
Never trueAlways true
RA-5I have remained in unhealthy or harmful relationships primarily out of fear of being alone.
Never trueAlways true
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Emotional & Mental Health

Internal emotional patterns linked to the father wound

Rate each statement: 1 = Never true  ·  3 = Sometimes true  ·  5 = Always true

EM-1I experience prolonged sadness, grief, or an inner emptiness I cannot fully explain or trace to any single cause.
Never trueAlways true
EM-2I carry significant anger or rage — directed at myself or at others — that I struggle to control or express healthily.
Never trueAlways true
EM-3I live with a constant background of anxiety, hypervigilance, or an undercurrent of fear and unsafety.
Never trueAlways true
EM-4I numb emotional pain through food, alcohol, substances, overworking, social media, or other compulsive behaviours.
Never trueAlways true
EM-5I experience intrusive memories, flashbacks, or emotional triggers connected to my father or my upbringing.
Never trueAlways true
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Performance, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing

How the wound may drive overachievement, self-erasure, or approval-seeking

Rate each statement: 1 = Never true  ·  3 = Sometimes true  ·  5 = Always true

PA-1I am driven by a deep need to prove my worth through achievement, success, titles, or recognition.
Never trueAlways true
PA-2I find it very difficult to say "no" and habitually place others' needs above my own, even at great personal cost.
Never trueAlways true
PA-3I am a perfectionist — failure or making mistakes feels deeply threatening to my sense of identity and value.
Never trueAlways true
PA-4I constantly seek external validation and approval in order to feel acceptable or worthy.
Never trueAlways true
PA-5I suppress or minimise my own voice, opinions, and needs to avoid conflict, rejection, or disappointing others.
Never trueAlways true
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Spiritual Life & View of God as Father

How the father wound may have shaped your faith, trust, and spiritual identity

Rate each statement: 1 = Never true  ·  3 = Sometimes true  ·  5 = Always true

SP-1I find it difficult to trust or experience God (or a higher power) as a safe, loving, and genuinely present Father.
Never trueAlways true
SP-2I feel that God is distant, disappointed in me, or withholding love, blessing, or approval from me.
Never trueAlways true
SP-3My experience of my earthly father has negatively shaped how I pray, worship, or engage with my faith community.
Never trueAlways true
SP-4I struggle deeply to receive the unconditional love, grace, and forgiveness that faith declares is available to me.
Never trueAlways true
SP-5The concept of being a truly "Fathered daughter" — fully known, chosen, and loved without condition — feels impossible or very hard to embrace personally.
Never trueAlways true
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Father Wound Type Indicators

These questions identify the specific nature and origin of your wound

WT-1  ·  Type of Father Absence
Which statement most accurately describes your father's presence in your life?
WT-2  ·  Abusive Experiences
Did your father's behaviour ever include any of the following? (Select all that apply)
WT-3  ·  The Silent / Passive Wound
"My father was a decent man, but he never expressed love, warmth, or emotional affirmation to me as his daughter." Rate how true this is:
Not true at allCompletely true
WT-4  ·  The Betrayal Wound
"My father was present but repeatedly broke my trust through lies, addiction, broken promises, or other forms of betrayal." Rate how true this is:
Not true at allCompletely true
WT-5  ·  Idolisation & Idealisation
"I placed my father on a pedestal or deeply longed for his approval — and when he failed me, it was utterly devastating." Rate how true this is:
Not true at allCompletely true
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Personal Reflection

Your own words carry power — take all the time you need here

R-1  ·  The Shaping
In a few sentences, describe how you believe your relationship with your father (or his absence) has shaped the woman you are today.
R-2  ·  The Memory
Is there a specific experience involving your father that stands out as most painful or most formative in your life?
R-3  ·  The Impact
What has been the greatest visible impact of your father wound — in your relationships, self-image, faith, career, or parenting?
R-4  ·  The Hope
What does healing and wholeness look like to you? What are you hoping to reclaim, become, or release?
R-5  ·  Readiness for Healing
How ready do you feel today to begin or continue the journey of healing your father wound?
Not ready at allFully ready & eager

By submitting, you acknowledge this assessment is a psychoeducational awareness tool — not a clinical diagnosis.
Your responses support your personal healing journey with The Fathered Girl Foundation.

The Fathered Girls Foundation

Your Father Wound
Assessment Results

⚠️ Awareness Only: This assessment is specifically for awareness only. This is a psychoeducational awareness tool, not a clinical diagnosis. It is designed to help you begin naming and understanding your father wound. Please use these results as a starting point for conversation with a qualified therapist, counsellor, or the care team at The Fathered Girl Foundation. You are not alone — and you are not beyond healing.

Overall Father Wound Intensity

Based on your scored responses across all five life domains

— out of 100

Impact Across Life Domains

Self-Worth & Identity
Relationships & Attachment
Emotional & Mental Health
Performance & Approval
Spiritual Life & Faith

Your Personalised Healing Pathway

Compassionate, practical steps for your journey toward wholeness

"You were not made to carry this wound alone.
You were made to be Fathered, known, and whole."

The Fathered Girl Foundation exists to walk every step of this journey alongside you.

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© The Fathered Girls Foundation  ·  www.thefatheredgirls.org
This assessment is for psychoeducational and awareness purposes only. It does not constitute a clinical diagnosis or substitute professional mental health treatment.
If you are in crisis, please contact a qualified mental health professional or crisis support line immediately.